Klaudia Slosarova
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A letter to my husband he will never read…"Darling, I wish I was brave enough to tell you how I felt at the toughest time of our lives…When you were terrified of losing me as everything you tried only pushed me away even more…When you stayed up all night, thinking about the next move, feeling miserable the next day because it failed.I know I told you I did not care. Deep down I cared but I could not bring those feelings to the surface.The wounds wouldn’t heal quickly enough and the pain was too real.My only option seemed to be to pack my suitcases and leave, as anger and regret were all that remained of us!!I hated it!Why did I not tell you how to fix it?-I did not know the solution back then. I had too many unresolved conflicts in my head, which were hard to articulate.-All those Disney-inspired gestures from you only made me realise what we had lost. I cried myself to sleep every night (you just did not see me).-I was terrified to speak up about the war inside my head, as I thought I would disappoint you.-I did not believe in your promises anymore. I felt you never listened to me.-I felt like a villain in my house because every conversation we had ended up with a pointless fight. So I kept shutting you out as it was easier.That was 7 years ago!Today, we are bulletproofNo more confusion between my words and actions!I say it to you straight instead of playing mind games or expecting you to read between the lines.I respect you even more because you are my "Rock & Pillow"Random kiss and hug attacks are guaranteedThe words "You do not listen to me!" are goneHow was it fixed?You realised that:-Making promises, begging, or explaining yourself led nowhere!-The problem was emotional, not logical-The "regret invoice" would bankrupt your life-The biggest expense was lost conversations.Instead, you focused on:-becoming the man you said you were, which made me want you back for good-things you could control instead of what you couldn't- ditching the victim mindset-helping me get my thoughts and feelings back in order♻️Repost if this helps your networkP.S. If you found this valuable follow me for similar content
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Thomas H.
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This is a beautiful and honest letter.The ending is lovely. It shows how communication, growth, and effort can heal a relationship.
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Internal wars and struggling can be the biggest ones!!
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I am betting you never had a formal course in interpersonal communication in K-12 and that you have most likely received none or only a couple of courses in any university degree. What you described here was a micro-complex discussion problem. People today don't know how to cope with these types of discussions, so they can turn a debate into a dialogue that helps both parties minimize the emotions or create a safe space to talk about feelings with someone you genuinely care about. We have learned to talk and listen since we were two years old. Most people never receive formal education on how to communicate interpersonal. Yet, we hear constantly that communication is the problem driving divorces. Over forty years, I assessed tens of thousands of employees who said the one thing they would like their leaders to do better was communicate better. When I asked for examples, they were talking about interpersonal communication. Unfortunately, social media has worsened the problem. I don't have enough space to explain further.
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Everyone is dealing with someone under the surface Klaudia. That’s why we should always be patient with people 🙏
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Random kiss and hug attacks are the best Klaudia SlosarovaThat means things are emotionally safe 🔥
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Beautiful story and so well written - the journey is always similar. 😍
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Such a beautiful post
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Love this. Hope everyone finds the courage to talk about it with someone anyway. Thanks for sharing. ❤️
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Your letter is incredibly raw and heartfelt, Klaudia SlosarovaIt speaks volumes about the journey you and your husband have been on, navigating through tough times to emerge stronger together. 💖
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I am sure this will make many reflect on their love relationship, Klaudia SlosarovaFor emotional problems we cannot search for logical reasons, but we often do.
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